you have never done anything wrong

I wonder how you feel when you read the statement.. You have never done anything wrong...ever.
How willing are you to receive this and embody it as truth?

This statement once stretched me so far. It felt soooooo uncomfortable because of my life experience
and the internalised messages I had about wrongness. In my world someone was always wrong. It was me, them or Life.

"There's something wrong with me/you"

"I/you did the wrong thing"

"That was the wrong things to do"

The word wrong is used a lot in our culture.

How does it feel when you read these statement? What thoughts and feelings come up?
I am sending so much love to the younger parts of you that experienced any of these words spoken to you.

I am sending love to the part of you that needed to believe these words were true to stay safe.

You have never done anything wrong....ever.
So how have I come to believe this to be true.

When we see ourselves and others through a needs consciousness we begin to see that every thing we do and they do, seeks to meet a need.

As humans we all have needs. These include closeness, connection, agency and autonomy. In every moment we are responding to these needs.

A child might be clingy to their mum to meet the need of closeness.
A partner might say "You love golf more than you love me" to met the need of connection.
A two year old might yell "No, I can do it my self" to meet the need of autonomy.

A teenager girl might pack a bag with the outfit she loves and get changed outside the home to meet the need of agency.

Every thing we do is seeking to meet a need. By discovering the need we can soften around the behaviour that's been used to meet it.

When we have the capacity to see beyond the behaviour into the heart of the need we soon realise
that the idea of wrongness is misguided.

Releasing wrongness does not deny the big feelings that may be present in relation to a person or experience.

A space created that is safe to have all feelings heard is where healing happens.

It is where the release happens and where parts of our selves are integrated.

Are you willing to release wrong towards yourself and others?

So much love to you xx